Entrepreneur love life

Entrepreneurs are a unique blend of risk-takers. They can make incredible love partners if you know how to crack the code that unlocks their love and devotion. If you don’t, they can seem like the most selfish, narcissistic, unavailable workaholics you’ve ever met.

Somehow our words come out in the form of pressure, judgment, blame, shame, and general neediness. Instead of bringing playfulness, seduction, humor, and kindness, we often demand that our needs be met, and that leads to a response that results in the opposite of our desire.

What I have found is the entrepreneur brings a unique set of gifts and challenges to a relationship. The gifts in relationships are easy to spot in the form of generosity, enthusiasm, dedication, devotion, and loyalty. The challenges in love partnerships always have to do with time, energy, attention, focus, comparison, drive, and ambition. To fully love your entrepreneur lovers, you must accept them with all their gifts and challenges while also asserting your needs and desires. The key here is the way you assert your desires makes all the difference.

Here is a must-have guide on how to communicate with your entrepreneur partner, including topics and phrases to avoid, and what to say instead. By following the below tips, you can get the outcome you want to live an extraordinary life with your entrepreneur lover.

1). Never say: “Why are you working so much?” Get used to it. Owning a business means that the bottom line rests with the owner and that means if something goes awry, your sweetie is getting called in to handle it, give an opinion on it, or at the very least be informed about it.

Instead, say: “Hey love, when will you be able to take your next break? Because I’d love to help you relax.”

First, get clear with your needs. Ask yourself, What do I want? Time? Attention? To be most likely to get your needs met, use a loving, playful tone and ask, “Hey love, when will you be able to take your next break? Because I’d love to help you relax.” Wink, wink. And FYI, relaxing can also mean going for a 20-minute walk to connect, giving a neck rub, drawing a bath together or even taking a nap

2). Never say: “I had that idea like 10 years ago It states she is pursuing a business that you dreamed about a decade ago so it’s not timely or relevant. Instead, say: “I’m so impressed that you can implement an idea while taking on the risk and stress of it all with grace and ease.”

3). Never say: “In this economy, aren’t customers hard to find?” Entrepreneurs have very little tolerance for negativity as they have enough fear, doubt, and worry of their own that they are working at releasing. They don’t need yours to be added to the myriad thoughts of inner and outer naysayers.

Your job is to be supportive and encouraging as a lover. You’re not in business together. And if you are, then take the “business hat” off and put the “relationship hat” on to be supportive in this moment. It is essential for the longevity of your relationship and the business.

Instead, say: “Is there any way I can support you in bringing in more clients/customers/business? Please let me know if and how you’d like me to spread the word about your business, sweetheart. I love what you’re doing and want others to experience it, too.”

What does this do? It reminds your love that there are always successful people in any economy. Why not him? When you believe in your partner it’s like giving him the wind beneath his wings! (Yes, Bette Midler shouts out.)

• Make yourself a motivation, because even the one you look up to can politely break the wings you have to fly with… 

• Don’t be a jackass waiting on some illusive imagination to act, you have to take your actions.

• Let fear not bring you any bounce.

• When it’s time for the grey hair on your head, even if you can prevent it, the best thing to do is to let it come accompanied by your achievements.